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Bible Study And Dating
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Dear Rob,
I joined this bible study a couple of months ago, and I met this
really fantastic girl, she is funny and witty and we are always
teasing each other.
When we go out we
normally separate from the other bible study members when
walking and talk in general. I've been meaning to ask her out on
a date rather than a group date but I fear rejection and loss of
her friendship.
I asked her once,
if her and her sister ever wanted to go to the movies with me
and a friend who is also in the group that she should let me
know as she has my number. She just laughed. That was 2 months
ago and she hasn’t asked about my offer since.
We are always
playing mind games and she always hits me when I tease her, and
she is comfortable around me as she always stands close to me
when were out. She is 23, I'm 25 but I get the feeling she has
never been out with a guy before, but she'd be highly sought
after. What should I do because I now I’ll stop coming to the
bible study if she rejects me?
Regards,
Jimmy
Hi Jimmy,
I think that she's starting to feel comfortable around you, but
play it safe. Do the group thing for a while longer.
One on one dating
is something she may not be ready for and if you pressure her
you'll lose her for good. But why start with asking her for just
a date, or even a double date?
Invite her for a
coffee and dessert somewhere quiet after the next bible study
class. Nothing fancy, nothing formal. Invite others too if it'll
make it easier for you.
Keep the pressure
low and her interest high.
It's always quite
possible that you are just amusing enough to hold her attention
during bible study but not any other time.
Does she have a
phone number? Email?
For many shy
women, starting the 'get-to-know-you' period of a relationship,
which is the road you are on, is easier via phone calls and
emails than face-to-face.
Do not fear her
rejecting you. Rejection is your friend because if she does
continue to say no, at least you'll be available for other
women, right?
As for ending your bible study if you get rejected by this girl.
Think about it.
Is bible study just a way to score with the girls?
Your priorities may need to be checked.
Keep God in your life and trust Him.
Girls come and go, you're old enough to understand that.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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