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Help Asking Her Out
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Dear Rob,
I’ve known this girl since we were both kids, as we live in the
same street and we both go to the same youth group where she is
the youth leader. We’re both 19. I’ve grown to like her a lot,
to the stage where I’ve developed feelings for her. I only ever
see her once a week at the youth group. At the start of 2005 and
nearly every other week I used to catch her staring at me. I
could be talking to some people and she’d be in another group in
another conversation, and if I was to turn or look around the
room I would immediately catch her staring dead straight into my
eyes for no apparent reason. Once I caught her she’d look a bit
nervous, and look away. Some nights I’ve caught her out and then
she does it again two minutes later. One night I was sitting
down talking with someone and she was in the row in front and I
just happened to look in front and caught her again. This time I
held the stare and I smiled, she did too, and then turned back
around. This has happened so many other times as well with her.
Whenever we both hold a conversation we are both very shy
towards each other, as we’re both shy people, but she always
looks me in the eye so much so that I’m just too nervous to hold
the contact.
If she is ever walking towards me in the street or mall she
looks in my direction then quickly looks away and acts all
nervous until we pass, when she does acknowledge me, sometimes
acting surprised that she has seen me. Is she trying to avoid me
or is she just nervous? Also whenever I make a mistake, be a
clutz, make myself look stupid or tell a dumb joke, she’ll
laugh.
Does her doing these things mean anything or am I just over
reacting and blowing things out of proportion?
I’m just too scared to make a move or anything because I’m
afraid of being rejected and making a fool of myself, plus she’d
be an 11/10 in the looks dept, where’d I’d only rate myself 5/10
which makes me wonder why she’d be even remotely interested. I’m
sort of waiting around for her to give me more of these signs
before I do anything, but in the meantime I know that she might
just find someone else, maybe for good, then I would loose her
for good. How can I get over myself and handle this situation or
just ask her out?
Hi,
You sound like a nice guy. Invite her out for a coffee or
something after the next youth group meeting.
It's likely she's
as experienced as you are in the relationship department, good
looking girls are all too often lonely because every guy is
afraid of rejection and doesn't ask her out.
Get over yourself
and your fears. Read more articles on my site and ask her out
for a coffee.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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