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Meeting For The First Time
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Hi
Rob,
I was wondering if I could have the chance to ask your advise?
I met this guy
online about 5 months ago and he lives in Cairo, Egypt. Everyday
for the past 5 months we talk faithfully online with Instant
Messaging and we both have web cameras so we see each other, and
we talk on the phone and also send letters to each other. I have
met his parents and 2 brothers and sister-in-law, and niece, and
I chat with them too.
Ok, my question
to you is, I know that him and I come from 2 different worlds,
which includes culture and religion. We have talked about this
before and I don't have any problems with this, I really think
that I love him in my heart, and that he is my soul mate. I want
to fly to Egypt in February or March 2007, and we want to get
married. Do you think that I would be a fool to do this?? Or
should I just go with what my heart feels?
I would appreciate your advise or opinion.
Thank you
Carol
Hi Carol,
Making such life changing decisions before you actually meet
this guy in his world, in his lifestyle, is a mistake. You'll be
rushing love before you been know how he smells. Whether he
chews his food with his mouth open. If he showers daily.
You need to do a lot of background research on his culture and
religion and how women fit into this life you are possibly
joining.
You need to know how you will be supported, if you will be
needing to work.
You need to know if you will remain living where he is or you
will return 'home' at some point.
If you do go and meet him face to face, and by all means do,
keep the visit short, 7 days at the most. Have a hotel booked.
Stay there yourself.
DO NOT go and be dependent upon him for travel, food,
accommodations.
If he wants you to stay with him you will be dependent on him
and things could easily turn bad.
Keep your passport in the hotel safe.
Be sure you have family and friends that you have told what is
happening, that you will call at prearranged times during your
visit.
Be careful and truth that he is the love you think he is.
But be prudent and have an escape plan if things don't turn out.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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