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When The
Guy Doesn't Call
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Hi
Rob,
I need your advice on how I should respond and/or feel about a
situation....I have been on 4 wonderful dates with a man. When I
left his house on Sunday he called me about an hour later to
make certain I had found my way home and said he'd call me later
that evening, but never did. It is now Tuesday afternoon and I
still haven't heard anything from him. What do I make of this?
Confused
Hi Confused,
A guy almost always calls when he says he will.
Possible reasons why a call won't call are:
- lost interest in you
- something embarrassing is happening to him that he doesn't
want to share
- he's talked to his friends and they advised him not to call,
not to look desperate
- he feels that he should wait more than 3 days to call you to
make your next date
Give him two more days to call you. Then I'd call him, give him
heck for not calling you when he said he did and tell him that's
not how to treat you, and for him not to do it again. Or simply
say that you had a good time and you wondered what happened
because he didn't call when he said he would. Don't be too
demanding but make sure he knows to always follow-up what he
says he'll do for you. Be straightforward.
Many guys go by
the rules of timing when to call after having a date. In order
not to appear too needy guys should wait three or four days
between calls for a date. Remember though, it is OK to call
right after the date but keep the conversation short. Make sure
your date made it home OK, that she had a good time and get off
the phone. Dragging out a conversation right after having the
date is bad form for any guy. And call frequency increases as
you date more. After four dates if interest level is kept high
then you're at the 3 call a week level even if you're still only
going on one date a week. When you start going on more than one
date a week the calls can increase to every couple of days. But
guys need to call when they say they're going to call.
Best wishes,
Rob
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