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Getting
With The Popular Girl
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Hey
Rob,
I have been reading some of your replies lately to some other
people and so I figured you would be the only person who could
help me!
There is this girl in my high school. I am 16. She looks really
nice. We only talked a couple of times, I just know her cell
phone number due to some incident that happened to her but she
doesn't even know me too much to talk on the phone. I would end
up making a fool out of myself.
The problem is
that she is one of the popular girls in school, you know the
rich and popular type. Whereas, moi, well let's just say I am
not exactly a looker and to some extent, yes a nerd. Not really
one of the richest/popular guys at school.
I don't even know
her too much to know what interests we share... it makes me
really sad. Its summer now. I don't know how I could survive 3
more months not looking at her! Please give me some advice!! I
am desperate!!
Thanks!
Hi,
Getting in with the popular girl at school isn't all too hard,
depending on her overall attitude and availability.
And your self-confidence level.
First off, what makes a popular girl popular:
- She's good looking
- Hangs out with other popular people
- Clean and nice smelling
- Wears nice clothes
- Knows the lyrics to the top songs
- Enjoys going out with her crowd of people
- Dates lots of guys without getting serious
- Shows that she has self confidence and high self esteem (even
though she probably doesn't and is scared on the inside of
becoming unpopular)
She is surrounded by popularity so it just rubs off on her. She
has attitude and a level of personal pride. And it's these
things that usually also stop guys from approaching her
sincerely, why she ends up dating jerks. It's the jerk that
actually shows confidence and has the ability to talk to her,
bust on her, that allows him to enter her social circle.
Now, what makes the unpopular guy such a loser?
- He's not always dressed well
- Not always smelling 'shower fresh'
- Doesn't exude confidence in himself
- Keeps to himself, not very many friends
- Doesn't get involved in group activities unless he can hide
behind someone else's actions
- He's a follower not a leader
- He thinks that he's not good enough to become popular
- Usually very afraid to talk to girls
- Afraid of being told he's wrong by his peers so he doesn't
voice an opinion about anything
So, if you want to turn around your chances to get with the
popular girl you have to make some serious changes about your
own personal outlook.
You've got to be able to approach, talk to, joke with, bust on,
all kinds of women. Not just the pretty ones, not only the
popular girls, not the ones that makes you dizzy with sexual
thoughts. You have to be able to talk to any girl, any time,
anywhere.
You've got to clean up yourself so you can break into the group
that surrounds your ideal girl. Make yourself into a confident
man. Not a lovesick puppy.
How do you start these changes?
- Go shopping. All by yourself. Clothes shopping is the best.
You need to find a shirt, a stylish shirt. One that fits well
with a high price tag. And you're going to approach sales girls
in the clothing shops in the mall and you're going to get them
to help you, not only find the right shirt but help you to get
used to conversations with pretty girls. Go into the shop. See
the pretty sales girl. Ask her if this shirt (any nice shirt you
pick out) comes in your size. Ask her if she'd date a guy in
this type of shirt. Ask her what she has that goes with the
shirt. Ask her if she's seen the latest movie (what ever it is)
and if she thinks that a shirt makes the guy in the movie she
saw and why. Bust her on the badly chosen character she
mentions. Then say thanks, and you'll think about the shirt. And
move on to the next store.
- Get some lines prepared to ask sales girls, waitresses, about
what they think, what they do on their job. These girls that are
paid to serve you are great to test out your lines and build
your confidence. They have to be nice to you. Just remember that
they aren't going to date you, just reply nicely to you.
When you've started getting used to talking to women, move on to
your target. You're lucky in that it is summer, so your popular
girl likely isn't going to be hanging around with as many
friends as she did in school and may have more free time to
spend with someone new. As well, the pressure is lessened on her
to be such a tight-ass popular girl and break on the geeks and
nerds. Your chances are better during summer vacation and
holiday time off school than any other time during the year
because of the less pressure to maintain her status quo and the
popularity pressure from her circle of popular friends.
You've got her number. Call her up. Say you like her style
sense, meet me in the mall tomorrow and help me buy a shirt.
Don't ask, tell. Give her a time get her to say yes and get off
the phone. If she says she doesn't know her say you're the guy
that did that thing with that other girl that so many people
talked about. Don't describe any more. Get her interest up and
get the date when you tell her when and where and then get off
the phone. 3 Minute call, at most.
When you meet her at the mall go into the same stores where you
started conversations with the sales girls. Hopefully you've
left a positive impression on them and they'll treat you really
nice, maybe even remember your name. This is a great way to stir
interest and maybe spark a little jealousy in your popular girl,
making her want you just a little more.
Be prepared with small things to talk about:
Clothes
School classes
Movies
Music
Get her to talk about herself more than you talk about her or
yourself. Do not allow any awkward silences. If there seems to
be a break in the conversation, jump in with "What do you like
about..." and keep the conversation going.
This should get you going. You've got your work cut out for you
now.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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